‘Drunk women deserve to be raped’

A study reveals that over a quarter of Britons believe that a woman deserves to be raped if she is wearing ‘sexy’ or revealing clothing. 

ICM conducted telephone interviews across the country, which involved 1,095 people, aged 18 and above. According to the study, 30% of participants also believed that a woman is responsible for being raped if she is drunk and 22% held similar beliefs if the woman had had many sexual partners.

It is shocking to see that these opinions still exist in modern society; just this year Nick Ross, creator of Crime Watch, found himself in hot water, as he suggested that ‘not all rape is rape’ if the woman is drunk or leads a man on.

There are many issues surrounding this sexist and old-fashioned mind set; not only does it assume that all women are seductresses unless they are sober and dress like librarians, but it also implies that men have no control over their sexual desires.

Am I to assume that all men are sexual predators, and live my life in such a way, so as not to stir these beasts? Is a woman in a bikini, sunbathing on a beach asking to be raped? Can a woman not simply change her mind?

Though, in an ideal world, we would all be safe from sexual or physical attacks, this is not reality. Tragedies happen, but who is ‘deserving’ of sympathy and support should not be based on what someone was wearing, whether they were alone or how many previous partners they have had.

Do you agree? Leave a comment below.

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7 comments

  1. Thank you for linking to my post on the topic.

    I certainly don’t believe that anyone deserves to be raped. Rape is a violation for anyone, male or female, and there is no excuse for raping someone. And everyone deserves to be believed and taken seriously if they were raped whether they were drunk, sober, wearing a bikini or completely covered-up.

    My concern with drunkness is that people will do things that wouldn’t normally do sober. A woman may invite a man to her room and have sex with him. The next morning she may think that she’s been raped because she doesn’t really remember the evening and knows that she would never have a one night stand while sober.

    Drunk people don’t always act drunk and out of control even if they are verging on black out. I wonder if there are situations where men (and women) may not realize they are “taking advantage” of someone else because consent does occur, it just would not have occurred if the person were sober.

    I have heard suggestions that a man should just not have sex with a woman if she has been drinking. I feel like this may be a bit extreme, but I am not sure how else one could make a safe rule to protect both parties.

    1. Hi, thank you very much for your response! I agree that it’s very difficult to establish consent when someone is blind drunk. Though someone is never responsible for rape I suppose you can argue that we have a responsibility to keep ourselves safe. Unfortunately, sometimes we make errors in judgement and things can go very wrong. Needless to say, that still isn’t an ‘invitation’ for rape.

  2. Matthew Chiglinsky · · Reply

    Wearing revealing clothing is stupid. Of course it’s going to increase your chance of being raped. It makes men think about sex, and some men are rapists. If you make a rapist think about sex, guess what’s going to happen next.

    Bikinis and short skirts are both sexist, by the way. They’re made to help establish that women are mindless, half-naked sex objects. Men don’t wear either of them. Men also don’t get raped. Do you think that’s a coincidence?

    1. I didn’t ask whether wearing provocative clothing was sexist, I’m sure some women enjoy admiring glances, and why wouldn’t they? It boosts self esteem and brightens a night out.
      It in no way invites men to attack them.
      Yes men also get raped, a majority of those by their wives or partner, so no, there is no coincidence.
      The fault it entirely with the attacker.

  3. Matthew Chiglinsky · · Reply

    Rape isn’t even the real issue. It’s about a general lack of respect. Do you think a man using a drunken woman at a party who consents to sex is a kind thing to do to a woman? I don’t. I still think that’s a pretty rotten way to treat a woman, even if she’s not drunk.

    Misogyny is generally just a destructive force in our culture, and revealing clothing is part of it. All it does is feed the cycle of male sexual frustration, and where do you think that sexual frustration is going to go? If they’re married, that’s good. They can have sex with their wives, but otherwise they’re just going to seek out a woman they can use for consensual sex. Maybe it will be a one-night stand. Maybe they’ll just find some poor prostitute or maybe watch some pathetic porn star destroy her life on video.

    I don’t see the problem with dressing like a librarian. That’s actually the way most men dress. Men cover themselves much more than women, because men feel no need to show off their bodies to get attention. Women, on the other hand, have been brainwashed to think that if they don’t reveal skin or show off their butts in tight pants then they’re not real women or something. It’s like they all have Stockholm Syndrome, like they can’t exist without this degrading sexual attention from men.

    It’s sad, disturbing, annoying, frustrating. This world we live in makes me sick.

    1. What planet do you live on?! Men are able to walk the streets with a bare chest and only wearing shorts.
      You’re argument is misinformed and, to put it in the nicest possible way, bizarre. I’m just glad your opinion is of a great minority!

  4. Matthew Chiglinsky · · Reply

    An unattended jar of honey left open on a picnic table deserves to be eaten by a passing bear.

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